How many times have you heard the question, “If you could go back in time and change one thing related to your life, what would it be?”
A gazillion, right? That question is old and stale. We’d all change something we didn’t like about ourselves, something we did that was wrong, or something someone else did to us.
I have a twist on that question:
If you went back to any moment in your lifetime, and HAD to change one positive thing — one thing you have absolutely no regrets about — what would it be and how would making that change alter your future life experiences?
Keep in mind, you can change this one positive thing to something different, but positive. Or, you can take this one thing out of your past and not replace it with any other occurrence. Let’s also go back in time more than 5 years.
If you’re like me, the first moments that come to mind are full of regret. Did they have more impact on life than the pleasant, positive times?
In trying this myself, I’ve come up with many positive moments, events, and choices with no regrets about any of them. This is only one I believe would have a major impact on my life were it replaced with something else or deleted.
My moment to change: 1971-1975 I rode with a motorcycle club for four fun and enlightening years.
Impact of that moment in time: During those 4 1/2 years, I learned more about myself than any other time in my life. I had escaped my father’s controlling nature and was allowed to make my own decisions. I met people from all walks of life. I learned to decipher between daring and dangerous. I discovered the pleasure and responsibilities of freedom. I found my strengths and weaknesses.
I could go on, but you get the picture.
What a change or a deletion would mean to my life: If I were to change the activity to sailing, for example, I might have learned the same lessons though likely with different group of personalities than bikers. Would that have changed who I was?
If I were to delete this episode of my life, I believe my growth and discovery of myself would have taken much longer. I can imagine I would have continued in college as a shy and insecure young woman. I may have stayed on course to become a social worker, been hired to a county office and, maybe, stayed until retirement.
A county retirement would have been nice, but it wouldn’t make up for all that I gained otherwise.
I am currently writing a fiction series about a young woman riding with a motorcycle club and incorporating much of what I learned in those stories.
Try changing or deleting a period in your past and share in the comments what that would mean for you. Could experimenting with this idea help your creativity as a writer? Could it give you some insight to your life today?
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