If you’re between 40 and 60, you’ve entered an age of change. Most people fear or are uncomfortable with change.
Change means accepting a new set of circumstances. What if they’re bad? What if I can’t be the person I’ve just come to know and love?
“Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.” –Jim Rohn
Change is neither good nor bad. Change just is. And it’s what you make it.
Remember puberty? Your skin changed, you grew more hair, your voice matured, and you suddenly noticed the opposite sex. You survived it, right? You also came through that time a little different but a better you.
Midlife is pretty much the same. During this time your hormones ride a roller coaster. ..and then finally, they diminish.
First, let’s look at the changes men can expect:
Your hair gets gray, your skin wrinkles, you put on a little weight and you don’t feel like doing anything. You used to be able to lift your 50 lb. child like he was a sack of potatoes. Now a 30 lb bag of mulch has you huffing and puffing.
Nothing has the zing it used to have. You can’t figure out why. Your mood is bland and the only thing that gets you excited anymore is when your team wins the tournament, and you know how seldom that happens.
- Body hair loss
- Trouble with concentration
Worst of all, sex isn’t so hot anymore. Sometimes you even have trouble holding an erection. How many excuses can you make to your wife? You get up the nerve to talk to your doctor because you know you can’t talk to anyone else about this.
How embarrassing. Uh oh, the doctor is telling you he’ll prescribe VIAGRA. He might as well have told you…YOU’RE OLD…and sex, as you knew it, is over!
There are various body changes that conspire to cause erectile dysfunction, including:
- Reduced testosterone levels
- Decreased blood flow to the penis
- Impaired nerve function
- Erectile tissue that has become less elastic over time
In addition, health problems such as heart disease, high blood pressure, and diabetes head the list of physical causes of E.D. Men who experience erectile dysfunction have various options, including drugs in pill form like Viagra, drugs injected directly into the penis, mechanical devices (stop giggling!) or surgical implants.
HOLD IT! ( not literally)
While E.D. is the leading sexual problem for men, it is not inevitable.
The changes women can expect:
- Body hair loss
- Trouble with concentration
- Decreased sex drive
- Thinning skin
- Hot flashes
- Night sweats
- Difficulty losing weight
- Vaginal atrophy (use it or lose it) and dryness
Your hubby is giving you signs he wants to play tonight, and you’re trying to pretend you don’t notice because you just don’t feel like playing. Your tired and you’d rather be left alone to watch TV or read.
Lately you’re feeling as though you can’t juggle all the usual balls. You can’t focus. You forget things like your sister’s birthday, where you left your glasses, and what was it you meant to pick up at the store?
Every time you shower, you find too much hair clogging the drain. While you’re drying off, you notice your once flat stomach is now a pouch and no matter how many sit-ups you do, it doesn’t get any smaller.
And forget about trying to get a decent night’s sleep. If you aren’t sweating through the sheets, then it’s that your brain won’t shut down.
What can we all do?
Many of these changes are due to decreases in testosterone levels. Testosterone diminishes for both genders and women have the added problem of their estrogen and progesterone levels dropping.
You can increase your levels of testosterone and your circulation to increase blood flow to all parts of the body.
Some doctors will suggest testosterone therapy and that can be helpful. But there are more natural ways to get results, too. Begin with the following:
- Exercise regularly
- Eat a healthy diet, low in fat and high in protein, with plenty of raw fruits and vegetables, and peanuts
- Maintain a good weight
- Get a minimum of 7 hours sleep a night
- Quit smoking
- Avoid alcohol
- Avoid stress
Herbs and supplements –
> Herbs such as St. John’s wort and ginseng, are a good option as they increase circulation of blood in the body. They also provide more energy which is essential as fatigue is the common symptom associated with testosterone deficiency.
> Testarol is a popular testosterone supplement that is beneficial for increasing testosterone levels. It contains natural ingredients like Tribulus Terrestris and Beta-ecdysterone, that elevate testosterone levels and enhance physical performance. Beta ecdysterone is a steroid found in various plants. As it is made from natural ingredients testarol is safe and gentle to the body. Diminishing female libido in women can be treated successfully with testarol due to its ability to elevate testosterone levels as found out through clinical studies.
> B-complex vitamins improve your outlook on everything.
> Behind the funny name, Horny Goat Weed stands as a time-tested aphrodisiac that increases libido in men and women, and improves erectile function in men. And while the exact way that horny goat weed works remains unknown, the plant has long been employed to restore sexual fire, boost erectile function, allay fatigue and alleviate menopausal discomfort.
> According to Real Age: “Citruline, which your body converts into l-arginine, a blood vessel relaxer that enhances circulation to all your vital parts. American experts have found that knocking back a couple of glasses of watermelon juice a day raises blood levels of l-arginine significantly. (And, yes, you can buy 100% watermelon juice; if your local health-food store doesn’t have it, Amazon does.)
There are many other sources of citrulline — almonds, cantaloupe, chickpeas, cocoa, cucumber, dark chocolate, peanuts, red meat, salmon, soy, and walnuts — but none come close to delivering the amount in watermelon’s pretty pink flesh and crunchy rind. Don’t care for pickled watermelon rind? Then scrape out those little close-to-the-rind bits that are so full of citrulline.
Citrulline has another advantage: It turns into l-arginine in your artery walls, so you get the benefits right where you need them. “
> Foods such as oysters, eggs, beef, cabbage, radishes and broccoli act as natural testosterone enhancers.
Other remedies –
> Lubricants for a woman’s dryness can make sex more comfortable and thus enjoyable.
> Meditation for relaxation and better sleep.
Note: Even though the aforementioned supplements promote sexual well-being and improve testosterone levels in men and women, consulting a qualified doctor or a competent herbalist is very necessary to know the exact dosage and the duration of treatment. Also, to minimize occurrence of testosterone supplements side effects, having them during meals is advisable. This information is based on internet research and anecdotal information. Please ask your doctor which remedies are best for you.
All that seriousness aside, sexual pleasure and interest in sex does not decrease with age for many people. Older men and women can enjoy intimacy and pleasure through sex, as well as reaffirm their shared feelings of warmth, love, and affection.
The great things about sex at an older age are that women no longer have to worry about getting pregnant! Lovemaking is more intimate, sensual and a prolonged experience.
Sex is an intimate experience that can be shared and enjoyed throughout your life. Don’t assume that sexual activity must slow down just because you’re getting older. Address the effects of age, and keep enjoying intimacy.
Grab your main squeeze, get busy and have the BEST sex of your life!
If you’re in mid-life, are you experiencing any of these issues or are you worried about experiencing them?
Do you expect to enjoy sex with your partner well into midlife and beyond?
Do you have any funny stories to share on this topic?
You know I love hearing from you! Please share!
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