When The Going Gets Tough, The Tough Get Going

My Dad was a Marine Private 1st Class in WWII. He had strung the telephoneIwo Jima raised flag lines for communication with the commanders. He knew about danger and hanging tough in frightening circumstances. He learned to work as part of a team, but also be an independent thinker, and that you get nowhere in life without hard work.

 At home, he did most things ‘the Marine way’, whether it was ironing perfect pleats, making the bedsheets so tight his quarter bounced off them, or teaching his children to be independent. He worked hard to earn a college diploma and graduate from law school. He practiced law and then reached his career goal of becoming a judge. He hoped to pass on the values and lessons he’d learned to those who came before him in court.

He was known for saying, ‘When the going gets tough, the tough get going’. He had three little girls and, knowing the world could be a rough place sometimes, he wanted us to grow up strong and confident and able to take care of ourselves.

Thanks, Dad. I learned much from you.

Today’s world is a tough place. Although many of us are managing to get by, there are so many others struggling more than they ever imagined they would. The divorce rate, illiteracy and obesity are at an all-time high. Cancer and heart disease are the biggest killers. Homelessness is ever increasing and we can’t care for them all. Devastation from natural disasters, chemicals and hormones in our foods are making people sick, and tens of thousands of people are out of work and losing their homes and life savings. Murders and theft in some cities have hit record numbers. I could go on, but I’m sure you’ve heard the news.

So, what do we do?

The only way the world will get better is one person at a time, one act of charity, one act of responsibility, one good decision at a time. Be responsible for your little world. Your changes, your positive acts will create a ripple effect.

Here are some ideas:

1. Take care of yourself first. You can’t help anyone else if you aren’t stable–your health, your finances, your mental attitude.

2. Smile, no matter how you feel. Smile at strangers and smile at yourself in the mirror. You’ll be surprised at how much better you feel.

3. Forgive and forget, if not for someone else, then for yourself. Holding a grudge will make you sick. Let it go.

4.  Take another look at your finances. Can you get a second job, sell things you don’t need, give up professional manicures, cook at home more often than going out?

5. Organize your world. Keep good records, clean your basement, rake your leaves, fix the doorknob. Creating order in your life gives you a feeling of control over what can be controlled.

6. Do something charitable everyday. Help an elderly neighbor with her grocery shopping, cook a meal for a sick friend, volunteer a little time to help a child learn a skill, drive someone to his doctor appointment, let someone step ahead of you in line at the market.

7. Choose to be healthy. Walk everyday, cut out sugar and high fats from your meals, drink water instead of soda. Get regular check ups, brush and floss your teeth daily, keep your brain active.

8. Don’t stress. Stress causes free radicals to roam your system looking for trouble. Instead, let go of worry and make a plan, let go of fear and look for opportunity, let go of anger and make up, let go of self-pity and dig for your strength.

9. Adopt a positive outlook no matter how bleak life looks. You will better recognize new opportunities, make better choices and draw positive forces toward you.

10. Keep dreaming and pursuing creative outlets. You’re not alone in your struggle-there is always someone else worse off than you. Appreciate what you do have and build on it. Live in the moment. Even tough times have their rewards.

If you’re going through hell, keep going.  Winston Churchill

Above all, remember you have the strength to withstand most anything. You may have to reach down deep to yank it out, but it’s there. Be tough, encourage those around you to be tough and know you’re not alone.

Besides your positive attitude, what have you found helps to get through tough times?

You know I love hearing from you and anxiously await your comments!


18 thoughts on “When The Going Gets Tough, The Tough Get Going

  1. I love your tips and do my best to live by those. I hope I never become so negative I am my own barrier. There’s enough bad, time for good.

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  3. I agree Marcia. There is a quote that says “Think Globally, Act Locally.” It goes to show that one person really can make a difference. You would be amazed at the people who are happy for someone to smile at them and say “Good Morning.” It makes their day brighter and you’ll be happier for having said it;)

    • Hi Christy! Thanks for coming by! Living in a smll town, I see this ALL the time. There are so many folks who have nothing but hopes of connecting with others. A smile or a kind word makes their day…and mine! Thanks.

  4. Nice Post Marcia. There is a quote that says “Think Globally, Act Locally” which goes to show that one person really can make a difference 😉

  5. Great list, Marcia. I would add laughter. When I’m having a rough time, I’ll watch a comedy show–the good kind, not the kind that tries to make negativity funny, but like Home Improvement or Castle. Laughter is good medicine.

  6. I particularly loved your thank you to your father. Very, very nice!
    Every bit of your advice is excellent and should be everyone’s “to-do list”.
    My mantra: every day is a gift.
    Thanks Marcia!

  7. If only everyone followed this advice what a pleasant world we would live in. Despite the bad bits I always look for the positive side because nobody is going to tell you positive gossip and the media is not going to broadcast positive news so its up to all of us individually to find it for oursdelves. Fortunately there is always a good news story round every corner if you look for it.

    • I agree, Chris. there’s nothing but negativity in the news and, with everything folks are going through right now, they need positive thoughts and experiences. We usually have to find them for ourselves, though it’s not always easy.

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