When you have a family, you have issues to deal with from time to time. Since everyone handles crisis, financial troubles, relationship conflicts, health issues, etc differently, parents stand by ready to help wherever they can…thank goodness.
Once in my life and once in each of my adult children’s lives, it was a fortunate day when a parent stepped forward to lend a hand. It’s a treasure to have parents, and sometimes other family members and friends, who offer that kind of support, but it is we who must ultimately solve the problem.
When your problem seems insurmountable, you often spend time stressing and worrying. Soon you calm yourself and try to brainstorm a way around the problem. You may contact a confidant for a second opinion. Then you stew some more. You’ll be so overcome with your problem, you may talk to coworkers, a neighbor ro anyone who will listen, because it seems that if you talk about it, it’s easier to deal with.
Eventually you begin to create scenarios that are almost unreasonable, but you feel that discomfort comes with the territory…that being a difficult problem. Finally, you reluctantly talk to a family member who offers a consoling ear and an offer to help. You want to accept the help, but something in you stops you in your tracks.
Does any of this sound familiar? As I said, I’ve been there and I imagine some of you have, too. I recently read Alexis Grant’s blog post, Climbing Mountains, where she quoted Joel Osteen in a talk about how to deal with your big problems. Joel is a preacher. He’s written motivational-spiritual books and preaches at the largest church in the country, Lakewood Church, Houston. I’m not religious, but I do find him to be motivational. Alexis had this to tell about Joel’s message:
We all have mountains in life, he said, ones that sometimes seem insurmountable. But praying about them isn’t enough. Neither is thinking about them or talking about them. In fact, talking about your mountains often just makes them bigger.
Instead, you have to talk to your mountains, he said. Don’t ask them to move; tell them to. Don’t worry about whether you can overcome them; know you can.
In other words, the only way to conquer your mountains is to climb them. So stop talking about your mountains, and start climbing.
Thanks, Alexis. I agree! Having a support system is essential throughout life, but knowing you can power up and overcome whatever obstacle is dropped in your path, no matter how humoungous, is the inner strength that will aid you in that conquest, never to look back!
What’s been your source of strength during difficult times? Do you believe in just climbing the mountain?
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