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Based on the popular media’s views, women over 50 are probably not having sex. It seems those under 50 think sex is only for the 20-somethings. That had better not be true since I’m way beyond my 20’s. The pile of misinformation and confusion is mighty deep. Put on your knee-high boots and watch the cowplop…okay follow me, I’ll make a path:
1. Lack of Interest – Myth: men and women lose interest in sex after a certain age. Truth: Interest = attraction and/or intimacy. If a couple is physically and mentally healthy, interest in sex can last well into their 70’s. More importantly for folks in mid-life, developing and maintaining intimacy is critical in fostering a healthy sexual relationship. A National Council on Aging survey reports that among people age 60 and over who have regular intercourse, 74 percent of the men and 70 percent of the women find their sex lives more satisfying than when they were in their forties.
2. Men’s Hormones – Myth: Men aren’t able to get an erection as they get older. Truth: The level of a man’s testosterone does diminish as he ages, however, supplements can help. For information on which supplements can be taken, WebMD has some answers. Beyond supplements, a man may need more stimulation to become erect and he may not become as hard, but can still have a satisfying orgasm. Physical issues can cause difficulty in getting or maintaining and erection: poor circulation, prostate problems, and side effects of medications. Check with a doctor to find out how to combat these issues.
3. Women’s Hormones – Myth: A woman loses her ability to have an orgasm as she ages. Truth: As women are well-aware, a shift in hormones causes changes. During menopause she may experience dryness and discomfort during sex. Lower testosterone levels can decrease energy and sex drive. However many post-menopausal women find the new balance in their hormones causes increased interest in sex.
4. Satisfaction – Myth: Couples lose interest in having sex regularly and manual manipulation ruins sex with a partner. Truth: Aging = Change, but it doesn’t have to be negative. Sex can be more emotionally fulfilling now that it is less driven by hormones and more by desire for the one who loves you. After 65, sex may be less frequent but more gratifying. As we move through mid-life we shed some of the inhibitions we had as younger people and we can confidently communicate with our partner about our sexual pleasures. Retirees generally have more time to devote to love-making and pursuing common interests which promotes intimacy. Many women find increased sexual pleasure after menopause, including more frequent or more intense orgasms. Manual satisfaction increases a woman’s pleasure by keeping tissues moist and elastic and boosting hormone levels. For a man it helps maintain erectile response.
To enhance all the great sex you can have now that we’ve debunked those myths:
1. Chili peppers – these stimulate endorphins, the feel-good chemicals
2. Honey – a symbol of procreation and great for drizzling
3. Oysters – high in zinc and known to be an inducement for love-making
4. Coffee – high in antioxidants, but the caffeine ups the heart rate and gets the blood flowing
4 Keys to Intimacy
1. Be playful – youthful attitudes and time to fool around promote closeness
2. Be affectionate – all manner of touch creates excitement
3. Be appreciative – a mutual appreciation of the kindnesses that pass between you furthers your relationship
4. Be forgetful – overlooking the small annoyances or behaviors, keeps you in a loving state of mind
Any tips you’d like to share on keeping your love-life healthy?
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